A lot like life, most things that make you feel special and good on the inside require a form of grind. The satisfactions you get from finally accomplishing something you’ve been working on for a while is much more than a short-term goal.
People say that life is not a sprint but a marathon. That’s a perfect analogy because nothing good comes straight away. The rewards that are worth it usually require a massive time commitment. For example, a healthy marriage or relationship, it starts off pretty skeptical as you venture into the unknown but as you two work together, build a future and a relationship, things you never would see in the short-term start to appear.
These things can include:
This is such an important one, someone people trust faster and more than others but it takes time to achieve ones trust. Once you have it though, so many possibilities and boundaries can be explored. Both parties become more relaxed as they know that each other are working for a long-term goal. They’re both working on that marathon and taking their time. You cannot rush trust, it isn’t earned within a matter of a day, week, month or even year sometimes. It is all about communication, letting each other know intentions and plans. It’s about a clean relationship where you two are teammates making it the best for both.
Now this could mean anything. Working for long-term rewards can lead to opportunities within work; Promotions, Travel and other bonuses. Family life is another one, maybe you and your partner are ready to have children, the opportunity for you two to sit down and talk about bringing new life into your world. You would never bring this up on a first date or anytime soon into dating someone but by putting in the hard-yards, you could see the chance to think about it just around the corner.
It’s almost impossible to learn something and become a master at it in a day. It takes time, patience and plenty of practice to even get good at something. That’s why when you’ve been with someone for a long period of time, you start to understand what makes them happy, what makes them uncomfortable and what makes them fall in love with you all over again. I don’t know much about love but I can definitely tell you that nothing is more satisfying than seeing your SO smile and laugh because of something you did. It’s not being selfish, it’s being considerate. Working towards happiness for both. You start to remember their favourite food dishes or their favourite flowers. When they come home after a hard day and see that they have their favourite dinner waiting for them and a nice bottle of wine laid out, it’s hard not to forget about the day and put it behind you. Having knowledge of the simple tips and tricks that you’ve learned over the years can be put to good use. Remember, to win in a relationship, don’t keep score. It doesn’t matter how many times you’ve made dinner or how many times this or that have happened. You learn from the past to live in the present and ensure a future.
Now go out there, take it slow, take a moment to listen, you never know what you’ll learn. If you have trouble connecting, try playing a board game, their true competitive side might come out and you’ll understand more about them. Or if you are comfortable with each other,play some board games and add a little cheeky drinking game or truth or dare that could give you the opportunity to explore new exciting sides. My favourite to play is Cards Against Humanity, It’s hilarious and you also learn a little something about each others humour and political stance. Have some ideas from ebay‘s game night selection and make sure you two connect and spend quality 1-on-1 time.